Same Sex Friendships?
  • Funky+Pa%26%23036%3Bta+T0mmYFunky Pa$ta T0mmY July 2008
    Do you guys think it can exist? By opposite sex friendship, just to clarify, I mean considering a member of the opposite sex one of your best friends. Someone who you love and would do anything for without ever having it in the back of your mind that you would screw them if you could.

    I bring this up coz me and my m8s (all blokes) mentioned it in passing, and I was on of the few who think that true friendship can exist between friends of the opposite sex.

    I myself know a women whom I consider one of my best friends. Who I would do anything for, and who I have no intention of sleeping with. She is an attractive women, but I just can't look at her in that light, if she were drunk and all over me or whatever the situation, I would not be able to sleep with her.

    So my first question is do you believe true friendship can exist between men and women without that urge in the back of their minds to sleep together?

    Like I said above, I do believe it can exist, but then I also wonder if she were single when I met her, would we have been just friends, or would more have developed. When I met this friend, she was in a relationship with someone, and I am starting to wonder had she been single, would either one of us have taken that natural chemistry we have between each other one step further?

    So my second question is to those that think yes, it can exist, do there have to be specific situations where it can blossom? For example, does one person have to find the other person physically unattractive, or does the other person have to be unavailable for a true friendship to be born?

    Food for thought, would be nice to get some opinions from others on this topic!
  • jkarate212jkarate212 July 2008
    ehh....maybe in britain. but America...everyone wants to screw them eventually.
  • TrueBelieverTrueBeliever July 2008
    Your title says "Same Sex Friendships?"
  • GovernorGovernor July 2008
    I do not believe it is possible. I mean, I think there are plenty of people who can make it work and some, perhaps like yourself, who truly believe a relationship is nothing more than friendship, but I don't think that trumps the biological necessity you have to fuck every girl you see.

    Billions of years of development have led you to this point, and I don't think any amount human reasoning or rationale is going to be able to fundamentally change that.
  • coffeecoffee July 2008
    for men: nearly impossible
    for women: certainly possible
  • MagicMagic July 2008
    I used to want to fuck this one chick's brains out. But I kept getting shot down like Meaton in upper vents. So I played the friend card because she had hot friends and I ended up with some of them.

    I'm still really good friends with the original girl though, I lived with her for about a year and a half before she moved out with her fiance. She's getting married in November and I'm in the wedding on her side.
  • ScabdatesScabdates July 2008
    I think it's definitely possible. In the same way that gay guy's can have friendships with their guy friends.
  • BlackLightBlackLight July 2008
    I used to think this was possible, but college has taught me otherwise. There is no hope for men; he must fuck anything he can get within reach of
  • Funky+Pa%26%23036%3Bta+T0mmYFunky Pa$ta T0mmY July 2008
    See, I think there may be this point of no return so to speak.

    I've known this friend for a while and she has always had a boyfriend during that time.

    To say I didn't think about her in a sexual way when first getting to know her would be a lie, but I now think we've gone past that point of no return where it will only ever be a strong friendship.

    Had she been single before that point of no return then who knows. I believe it can happen, but I also think there have to be specific factors in it becoming nothing more then a friendship, otherwise it would turn into something more.
  • NunesNunes July 2008
    Not to suggest this happens all the damn time or anything, but if a girl I like as a friend, who is attractive, asks me if I wanna fuck. That's it. Friendship over. We're going to do it, have a fling, see things fall apart and probably barely talk again.
  • PheylanPheylan July 2008
    May not really be the point of the discussion, but I've had a few female friends that I never dated, but we did have one night stands and we are still good friends to this day. Sleeping with someone shouldn't ruin the relationship.
  • KevinWorkmanKevinWorkman July 2008
    I agree with Pheylan. Who says friends can't fuck?
  • FoowankoFoowanko July 2008
    I grew up with this one girl and for the longest time we were best friends. She was pretty cute but it never crossed my mind that I would/should have a real relationship because our friendship was good enough. Our moms thought we were going to get married though...funny if things should turn out that way. It was more of like a brother-sister relationship, not guy-girl.


    Fake edit: So yeah I think true friendships CAN exist, but I highly doubt I'll even think about that once I get to college this fall.
  • ScabdatesScabdates August 2008
    QUOTE (ANunes @ Jul 30 2008, 10:50 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
    Not to suggest this happens all the damn time or anything, but if a girl I like as a friend, who is attractive, asks me if I wanna fuck. That's it. Friendship over. We're going to do it, have a fling, see things fall apart and probably barely talk again.


    I HAVE KNOWN THIS TO BE TRUE WITH THIS SIR.
  • NunesNunes August 2008
    I'll never forget that magical night...
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